The Screaming Spiral

Why We Yell at Our Kids… And How to Break Free

It’s a familiar story. You’ve asked politely. You’ve asked again. You’ve patiently waited. You’ve even made a threat. But now, you’re yelling at your child:

“If you don’t do what I asked you to do RIGHT NOW, I’ll… I’ll… I’ll”, and then we threaten an uncomfortable consequence to coerce our children into listening to our requests and complying with our demands.

What’s going on with your children? Can’t they hear us? Are they actually ignoring us? How do we get our children to listen?

In this practical webinar with Dr Justin Coulson, you’ll learn:

• The 5 reasons your child isn’t listening to you despite your repeated requests
• How our children train us to repeat ourselves – and yell… and why
• Strategies for getting the kids to pick up their mess, put their plates in the sink, leave the park without tantrums, and hang their towels – all without you yelling
• 10 pro-tips and listening hacks that will LITERALLY change your life

If you want to break free of the screaming spiral and really get your kids to listen – this webinar is the game-changer. It’s for parents of children aged 2 to 22.

Here are the 10 pro-tips that Dr Justin shares:

1. Be sure you have their attention

• Positive ways vs negative ways

2. Connect

• Get on their level
• Look in their eyes
• Breathe with them
• Be still

3. Fewer words

• Gentle reminders

4. Acknowledge feelings

• emotion coaching

5. Offer choices

6. Give transition warnings

7. Adjust expectations

8. Dump the Don’t

Two things to process:

• What shouldn’t I do?
• What should I do instead?

9. Have them repeat the request

• “What did I ask you to do?”
• “Do you have any questions?”
• “Do I need to show you how?”
• Or extract a commitment.

10. Meet them with perspective and compassion

• You know I ask you to do a lot right? and it probably feels
  overbearing/too much.
• We have a big job in front of us right now though – can I get your help?
• Ask how you can help. maybe we can do it together?